If it’s hard to forgive … please forget … me

If it’s hard to forgive … please forget … me
please forget me … forever
ถ้าอย่างนั้น ขอเธอจงลืม … ฉัน
… ขอจงลืมฉัน ตลอดกาล
ไม่รู้ยังไงครับ นึกเล่นๆ เป็นทำนองน้อยใจขึ้นมาได้
ก็ขอให้ลืมกันเสีย จะได้ไม่ต้องมาเจ็บช้ำน้ำใจกันอีก ดีมั้ยล่ะ เออ
เคยได้ยินแต่ต้นฉบับที่เค้าว่า "Forgive but not forget" หรือ "Forgive but never forget"
ของท่าน Dalai Lama เลยลองไป search ดูเรื่องที่เกี่ยวข้อง เจอหลายอย่างน่าสนใจเหมือนกัน
หลายคนบอกว่า ไอ่ Forgive but not forget น่ะ มันไม่ใช่ Forgive จริงๆ …น่าคิดๆ
"I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a canceled note–torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one."–Henry Ward Beecher
"The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget."–Thomas Szasz, 1920- คนนี้ยัง concept เดิมอยู่
"Forgive and forget means forgive and stop dwelling on it."–Kevin Everett FitzMaurice
"Without forgetting there can be no forgiving," says retired Israeli Supreme Court Justice Moshe Bejski
อ่านไปอ่านมาไปเจอเต็มๆ ที่นี่
How to Forgive

It’s not enough to just say, "I forgive you," says Dr. Sylvest.
It’s important to understand what forgiveness is and what it is not, he says. Forgiveness is not saying, "Although you are a miserable person who does terrible things, I forgive you because I am spiritually mature and evolved." Or, "I’m a terrible, miserable person, too, who also does miserable things, so of course I forgive you." And forgiveness doesn’t have "ifs" or "buts" attached, such as, "I’ll forgive you if you change" or "I’ll forgive, but I’ll never forget." Forgiveness, he says, like the love that makes it possible, is unconditional.
True forgiveness is willingness to let go of judgments and see the situation differently. It has to do with experiencing love and joy instead of fear and hate, says Dr. Sylvest.
Another thing to remember: The concept "I will forgive, but I will not forget" is not forgiveness at all, says Dr. Sylvest. "Real forgiveness is to forgive and to forget," he says.
But forgetting without forgiveness doe not work, says Dr. Sylvest. "When we repress negative memories and feelings, they may have to be remembered so that we can know how to reach forgiveness. The order of things is to forgive and then forget.
If we master this, it will have profound effects on us, even improve our health. Research has shown that there are definite biological links between hostility and anger and the increased risk of certain diseases like coronary heart disease, says Redford B. Williams, M.D., professor of psychiatry and director of the Behavioral Medicine Research Center at Duke University Medical Center in Durham, North Carolina, in his book, "The Trusting Heart."
Dr. Williams also states that other positive emotions like trust, forgiveness, and love seem to enhance physical health.
Yes, forgiving is powerful, says Dr. Sylvest, powerful enough to affect all aspects of our lives.
ได้มาจากที่นี่ครับ ใครว่างก็ลองอ่านกันดู
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One Response to If it’s hard to forgive … please forget … me

  1. TOP says:

    ยากไปใช่ไหมจะยกโทษให้กันถ้าอย่างนั้น ขอเธอจงลืม … ฉัน… ขอจงลืมฉัน ตลอดกาลโดน-จัยอย่างแรง คร๊าบบ ท่านผู้ชม …

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